day of love

It’s almost valentine’s day! So, here’s an easy post you can send to your spouse/boyfriend/whomever and just say “pick something!” in the subject line 🙂

  1. Chocolates. Candy. Do I need to say more?
  2. Jewelry. A gorgeous bracelet, funky bracelet, charm necklace, or fancy or funky ring!
  3. Home goods! A cozy blanket or two or a sweet smelling candle!
  4. Cozy or sexy things. Whether its a set of silky cozy pjs or some sexy lingerie like this, or this– all are winners!
  5. Then- lets not forget FLOWERS and a sweet, handwritten card. This is honestly my favorite.

xox

aj

tree farm 2018!

 

reindeer sweater  | hat  |  boots  | sweater onesie

Another year, another trip to Rancho Siempre Verde tree farm!  This was our third visit to RSV, and it never disappoints.  See past posts here(2017) and here(2016).  The weather wasn’t great, and the toddler and newborn presented new challenges; but we found our perfect tree and made some new memories.

That said, I learned some things and now have some tips for tree ranching with kids:

1.  TAKE GROUP PICS WHEN YOU ARRIVE

It was raining off and on, and mud was everywhere.  By the end of the visit our toddler wasn’t the only one looking a mess.  Take group pics when you arrive while you’re still looking somewhat fresh!

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2. BRING A CHANGE OF CLOTHES

I really thought I was on the ball packing a change of shoes for Denton (19 mos) and myself.  What I failed to realize is that toddlers don’t stay on their feet.  By the time we left the farm, Denton was so soaked with mud that he rode home wearing nothing but a clean diaper and a blanket.

3. WEAR A HAT

The hat was a happy accident for me.  It’s hard keeping your balance sliding around in mud while holding a newborn and chasing a toddler!  Add in the intermittent sun and misty rain and it’s a real challenge.  Having a hat to keep the sun, rain, and hair out of my face was YASSS!

4. PACK A PICNIC

We had planned to stop for a late lunch at one of our fave restaurants on our way back to the city.  However, by the time we left the farm, we were tired from toddler chasing and Denton had no clothes.  Next year we’ll pack a picnic so that we can sit and eat while the kids roll around in the mud.

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5. BRING PLASTIC BAGS

I brought spare shoes, but no bags to put the muddy ones in– let alone Denton’s soaked clothes.  Oops.

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6. NEVER RUN OUT OF OXICLEAN

Ever since Denton started trying to feed himself, I have had an OxiClean Gel Stick on the washer at the ready.  As soon as we got home from the farm, I used the oxiclean on his little jeans and they’re good as new.  It also works wonders on tomato sauce and chocolate.

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Next year we’ll be more prepared!  And please let me know if you’ve got any pro-tips I’ve missed!

xoxo
-ash

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Black Friday/Cyber Monday SALES!!

holiday sweater  |  lace midi  |  embellished heels

Thanksgiving week has officially started!  And in addition to turkey, stuffing, cranberry sauce, and wine– there is an abundance of sales!!  Here are just a few of the sales being announced that are catching our eye…

Asos
– Black Friday build up! Up to 60% off big brands. Valid 11/16-11/19.
– New Lines Added! Up to 60% off big brands. Valid 11/19-11/21.

Abercrombie
– All jeans 50% off. Valid 11/15-1/2.

Bloomingdales 
– Thanksgiving Sale II: Tiered Buy More Save More. Valid 11/23.
– Take 25% off site wide + 10% off cosmetics during the Cyber Sale. Valid 11/25-11/27.
– Buy more, save more event. Take $25 off $150+, $75 off $350+ or $150 off $500+. Valid 11/28-11/29.

DVF 
– 20% off site wide with code ALLWEEK. Valid 11/21-11/25.
– 15% off $300+, 20% off $500+, 25% off $700+ with code DOUBLETAP. Valid 11/25-11/26.

Intermix 
– Take up to 75% off sale items. Valid 11/19-11/20.
– Take 30% off everything. Valid 11/26-11/27.

Kohl’s 
– Take an extra 20% off site wide with code TAKE20. Valid 11/24-11/28.
– Take $10 off $50 site wide with code JACKPOT. Valid 11/26.

Macy’s  
– 20% Black Friday preview with code SCORE. Valid 11/15-11/20.
– 20% Off Black Friday Sale with code BLKFRI. Valid 11/21-11/24.
– 20% Off Cyber Monday with code CYBER. Valid 11/25-11/26.

Stuart Weitzman 
– 40-50% off select styles. Valid beginning 11/22. End date TBA.

Urban Outfitters 
– BOGO site wide. Valid 11/21-11/23.
– Sale on sale. Valid 11/24.
– Cyber Monday receive tiered offers. In final hours take 25% off site wide. Valid 11/26.

Yoox 
– Take an extra 20% off site wide via YOOX app only. Valid 11/26.

moto jacket  |  fair isle sweater  |  nudist sandal

sash jumpsuit maxi dress  |  faux fur jacket

Happy shopping!!
xoxo

 

3v3

Ash’s obsessions

Pink suede biker jacket.  Perfect for spring!! Soft suede in a soft pink – LOVE!

Blooming lotus earrings.  How cute are these?! Dainty and sweet… the perfect touch to any outfit.

Peplum sweatshirt.  A cute and feminine twist on the traditional sweatshirt.  So want to wear this asap!

 

Aj’s obsessions

Chloe sandals. Yes, a splurge. But hey…the 3v3 is about things we are loving and I’m LOVING these…

Ruffle sleeve midi dress. I bought this dress in blue and wore it during Christmas! It’s a great, classic dress. I love the exposed gold zipper in the back. It comes in black, blue, and red- plus its under $100! I suggest to size up..

O’Neill Swimsuit. One shoulder or off shoulder swimsuits are really popular this year.

Life is happening FOR us, not TO us.

Ok, I’m going to go a little deep on ya compared to our typical fashion, food, or fitness filled blog post. I promised you at the New Year that I was going to elaborate on finding joy and happiness in posts to come- so this is my first one. I would love to know your thoughts and feelings…..

I would like to ask you a question, Are you happy?  I would assume that if you were able to answer my question, you would probably say, “Sure I’m happy”… although you would probably use some kind of qualifier such as…

But when this project is done at work, I will be happier…  or

When my kids get a little older and more independent, I will be even happier… or

When I own a home, get a better job, have better health, or have more money or when my spouse does this or that, I will definitely be happier than I am now.

The purpose of our existence is to have joy. Why can’t we have joy now and not qualify it when some future situation may or may not happen?

I have struggled with what I call “cheap happiness” – happiness that is based on whether or not something is going my way, or whether or not other people have or have not let me down, or things of that nature. So, that is why a year or so ago I decided to truly figure out what is happiness and make a choice in my life to live in a beautiful state instead of a suffering one- which is one that is any feeling or emotion that removes you from your happy state.

I once read, “The trick is to enjoy life.  Don’t wish away your days, waiting for better ones ahead.”  I think there is so much wisdom in that statement.  Things might now be perfect in our lives at this very moment but we can be joyful despite our trials.

So how do we do this?  Well, we can understand where happiness comes from.  Feeling happiness is a conscious choice we make for ourselves.  We must choose to be happy.

From one of my favorite guys, Tony Robbins, I will paraphrase : There are two states you can live in- a beautiful state or a suffering state. You are either progressing forward in that beautiful place or life, or you are moving backwards. There is no stationary. If you are not moving forward, you are moving backward. There’s a survival mechanism in our brains that is always looking for what is wrong. That is what it does. You can fight it or flight it. Our primitive brain was looking for survival- avoiding tigers and making fire- we don’t have that anymore so now it worries about what people think, or do I have enough money. The mind is always looking for what’s wrong; however, there is always right there too.

Happiness has almost nothing to do with our circumstances and everything to do with our attitude.There is an exception here and that is with those living in extreme poverty that do not have shelter or food or a way to fulfill their basic needs.  This group of people tends to benefit and actually become happier when those basic needs are met. How do we choose to be happy when we’re experiencing a trial or we suffer from depression?

I’ve noticed in my own life, when I’m depressed, I seem to turn inward.  I think that my suffering is someone else’s fault and they are the reason why I’m not happy.  I start to think that happiness can be found anywhere but the stage I’m in and I begin to feel sorry for myself.  I begin to be selfish and only think of my own needs and my own sorrow.  This is not a nice way to live.  I have seen members of my family wallow in this thinking their whole lives and shut everyone else out.  This thinking destroys their life and pushes their loved ones away. I’ve learned by watching them, this is not the way I want my life be.

Life is happening for us NOT TO us- it is our job to find out what the benefit is – if we do life can be magnificent.

My dress- sold out- but similar here : ivory coming soon

to be continued….