a prague wedding

This month I am celebrating my first wedding anniversary!  As with nearly all weddings, not everything went as planned.  Even with the hiccups though, most things fell into place.

Tips for planning a destination wedding: 

  • Choose a place you have been and love, and host a welcome event before the big day for guests to meet and mingle.

My husband is from the Czech Republic, his entire family lives there, and our stateside friends are a traveling bunch, so we decided to have our wedding in Prague.  We hosted a private welcome dinner boat cruise a couple days before the ceremony.  It was a great way for us to spend time with everyone, for our guests to meet each other, and to take in the sites of the city from the Vltava river.

  • Keep your wedding party small and color coordinate for photo ops. 

We stayed in the beautiful MaMaison Riverside Hotel in downtown Prague and on the morning of the wedding my mom, sister, and close friend helped me get ready.  We wore coordinating robes by Plum Pretty Sugar and sipped on Veuve Clicquot, of course!

  • Choose a dress that travels well, and preferably fits in a carry-on.  

Some day I may share my nightmare marathon dress shopping experience, but ultimately I chose a beautiful Monique Lhuillier ‘Harper’ gown.  The gown was a slim sheath style made of lace and tulle that easily rolled up into my carry-on luggage.  I luckily found the dress at Glamour Closet in San Francisco just one month shy of the wedding.  Glamour Closet also has stores in Los Angeles, Chicago, and New York, and it is a great place to find showroom and runway samples to buy off the rack for much less than retail!  As an aside, for alterations I highly recommend Lynne Ghallager at Wee Scotty.  She had my dress fitting perfectly in record time, and she has the coolest resumé I’ve ever seen.

  • Leverage the musical talents of family and/or friends.   

As I walked down the aisle with my mom, my dad played guitar and my sister sang Bob Dylan’s Make You Feel My Love (also sung by Adele).  It was way better than a recording, and much more affordable than hiring a band.

  • Rely on beautiful scenery to keep decorating and set-up needs to a minimum. 

The ceremonly took place in a covered area of the garden decorated with magnificent murals and statues.  Ten chairs were provided for family or those who needed to sit, but for the others it was standing room only.

  • Keep the ceremony short and the champagne flowing. 

The ceremony was relatively short and ended with the witnesses (my sister and the best man) signing the marriage certificate, followed by champagne!  There was some comic relief when the best man realized he had left the ring in his bag and had to run and get it mid-ceremony.

  • Choose centrally located venues, in close proximity to each other, and provide guests with maps. 

The wedding ceremony was at Vrtbovska Zahrada, one of the Prague Castle gardens.  After the ceremony guests walked or took a private bus down to La Terrassa, a spanish restaurant on the Vltava.  All of the event locations were walking distance from downtown, or a short cab ride for those in heels.  A map and schedule of events, along with a list of nearby hotels, was provided to guests well in advance of the wedding for trip planning purposes.
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  • Meet with venue staff well before the big day, and incorporate local traditions. 

The reception staff was beyond wonderful and accomodating.  They even surprised us by breaking a dish when we arrived, which in Czech tradition must be cleaned up by the bride and groom.  The broken plate pieces are said to bring happiness, and cleaning up the mess shows the will of the couple to cooperate.

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The staff also swapped out their usual spanish fare for a traditional Czech menu.  And in line with tradition, they served us Czech wedding soup that the newlyweds eat jointly as a sign of unity.

La Terrassa has since closed and in its place is a restaurant called MANU Risto.  I have not yet been to Manu Risto, but if you are ever in Prague the location alone would make the restaurant worth checking out, even if just for a cocktail.

  • Have cake, even if you don’t think you want one. 

We had planned to forego cake and instead serve kolace and local cookie varieties.  However, when we visited the bakery to order the sweets the owners talked us into a cake.  We chose a medovnik, a honey cake found throughout the Czech Republic.  I have never attempted to make it, but a google returned a few recipes including this one from Pauline’s Cookbook and this one from Czech in the Kitchen.

The cake was incredible, the best I’ve ever had, and I’m so glad we made the last minute decision to have one.  The cake topper was made from wire that we twisted to into “Pavash”, a mashup of our names (Pavel and Ashley), a nickname we’ve grown to love.  The flowers from my sister’s wrist corsage completed the simple cake decoration.

  • [Rock and] Roll with any surprises. 

The “DJ” that we hired sight unseen (or heard) actually ended up being a one-man-band with a microphone and synthesizer.  In a thick Czech accent he belted out an Elvis song for our first dance.  His style was unexpected but perfect and he and the slivovitz kept the party going.

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xoxo
ash

 

 

recent reads on money

As mentioned before, I spend 2 hours a day commuting, driving a stick-shift in traffic back and forth to work (ugggghhh… I know).  To make the drive tolerable and not feel like I am wasting life, I listen to audiobooks.  I prefer nonfiction because it really makes the drive feel like I’m multitasking in a positive way.  While I do love a good morning talk show with a juicy gossip roundup, 10+ hours of that a week and I can feel my brain turning to mush.

I’ve never been great, or even good really, with money; so over the last month I scanned iBooks and Amazon for audiobooks related to money and investing.  Out of the ones I have read and/or listened to, these stood out.

book snowball
The Snowball:  Warren Buffet and the Business of Life by Alice Schroeder.  I recently opened an individual investment account and funded it with $4k to try and figure out how it works.  I knew vaguely that Warren Buffett was a pretty good investor, so for inspiration I downloaded The Snowball and it did not disappoint.

book total money makeover
The Total Money Makeover:  A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness by Dave Ramsey.  I read this book almost 5 years ago, but felt it important to include here since it helped get me out of debt for good.  By my early 30s I had thrice gotten myself into significant credit card debt (well into 5 figures… oops :-/ ).  I managed to get myself out each time, but money stress sucks big.  The third time I found myself in debt I committed to making it my last.  On the recommendation of a close friend I read The Total Money Makeover and gave my money sitch a reboot.  While Dave gets a bit preachy, literally, in some of the pages, the book did what it promised.  I managed to pull myself out of debt within a year and I have been debt free ever since. WOOT!

book rich dad
Rich Dad Poor Dad:  What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not by Robert T. Kiyosaki.  In the book the author describes growing up with two dads with disparate views on wealth, his real dad and his best friend’s dad.  The book completely changed what I consider to be an “asset”.  For example, you may be able to claim your home and car as assets on a mortgage loan application, but they are not!

book the millionaire next door
The Millionaire Next Door:  The Surprising Secrets of America’s Wealthy by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko.  Not what I’d call a page-turner, this book is filled with statistics and acronyms and I probably would have put down if reading in hardcover.  If you can get through it though, it’s got some good insight on how to go from being a UAW (Under Accumulator of Wealth) to a PAW (Prodigious Accumulator of Wealth) and the benefits of getting there.  The book makes clear that when it comes to spending money the majority of millionaires are not keeping up with the Kardashians, or even the Joneses for that matter.  PAWs live below their means, no matter their incomes.
Get your financial $h!t together!  It’s worth it.  For realz.

xoxo

ash

 

 

 

shortbread and jam

Shortbread is my favorite.  And lavender-rosemary shortbread is my VERY favorite!  For six months I lived in London and shortbread and tea became a favorite snack.  So did chips and beer, but that’s for a different post.  Another UK takeaway?  Strawberry jam.  For whatever reason, strawberry jam is the most popular flavor in the UK, and all of Europe for that matter.

With spring in full swing my rosemary and lavender plants are ready for picking, and rumor has it that strawberry season has arrived.  So it’s time to stoke that London Town nostalgia and cook up some UK inspired treats!  Or do what I did and ask your sister to make them for you 😉

shortbread ingredients

lavender-rosemary shortbread cookies
ingredients:
3/4 tsp rosemary, chopped
3/4 tsp lavender, chopped
2 heaping tablespoons honey
1 1/2 tsp pure vanilla extract
1 1/4 cups unsalted butter (room temp/softened)
1 cup sugar
2 egg yolks
2 2/3 cups flour
1/2 tsp baking powder
directions:
combine the sugar, honey and butter. mix them together in mixer (with the paddle attachment if you have one). add the lavender, rosemary, e.g. yolks, and vanilla. mix everything together again until thoroughly combined.
add the flour and baking powder to the wet ingredients. mix everything on the ‘stir’ setting (or just hand stir) until everything is combined. CAUTION:  don’t over-stir. the dough should be sticky and a little wet
dump the dough onto a piece of parchment paper or cling wrap and form into a log about 1 1/2in in diameter. freeze for a half hour or so.
remove dough from the freezer and slice 1/2 in thick. (or you can roll out on a floured surface and use a cookie cutter). place on baking sheet lined with parchment paper, sprinkle with sugar, and bake at 350 for 9-10 min – or when the sides start to turn golden but NOT brown.  remove from oven and cool on cooling rack.
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strawberry chia seed jam
 
ingredients:
24oz strawberries -sliced
2-4 Tbs honey, maple syrup, or agave
2 tbs chia seeds
directions:
in a medium saucepan, combine the strawberries and 2 Tbs honey. cover and bring to a simmer over medium heat, stirring occasionally, until it begins to liquefy (about 5 to 10 min). once the fruit is liquid, bring it to a gentle boil and let cook until it breaks down and becomes saucy, about 5 min. mash lightly until at your desired consistency.
taste the jam for sweetness. if you want it sweeter, stir in additional honey a few tsps at a time.
stir in the chia seeds and let cook one minute. remove the pan from the heat, stir once more, and let sit for 10 min. the jam will continue to thicken as it cools. (if it’s still too thin, add 1-2 tsps of chia seeds)
transfer the jam to an airtight container (mason jar if you have it).  the jam will keep in the fridge for up to 2 weeks, or the freezer up to 2 months.
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enjoy!
xoxo

gifts for mom

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Mother’s Day is right around the corner so get that gift ordered stat!  Let’s be honest… these are really things that I’m currently wanting, but I think they’d make great gifts for moms too!

Gold Confetti Tumblers – set of 2 for $20 from Paper Source.  Whether she drinks Diet Dr. Pepper or whiskey straight, it will taste better sipping from these glasses.  Obviously.

Tom Ford lip color – $52 at Nordstrom.  The Sable Smoke, Spanish Pink, and Bare Peach colors are my top picks… but really they’re all lovely!  A bit pricey for a lipstick, but a luxurious splurge for any mom!

Capri Blue Iridescent Jar Candle – $28 at Anthropologie.  I’m particularly fond of the “Volcano” scent, but you really can’t go wrong with any of them.

Aldalora Throw – $128 at Anthropologie.  Can’t get over the cozy.  Pair this throw with a good book and if you’re not mom’s favorite already, you will be.

Jo Malone ‘Nectarine Blossom & Honey’ Body Crème – $75 at Nordstrom.  I own a couple Jo Malone products, but I don’t yet have the Nectarine Blossom scent and I’m craving it for Spring/Summer.  Simply divine.

MUMM Napa Brut Reserve Rose – $39   Mumm for the Mum!  Because it’s pink, and bubbly, and yummy.  Happiness in a bottle.

Jo Malone ‘Nectarine Blossom & Honey’ Cologne (1oz) – $65 at Nordstrom.  Last time I quizzed the sales clerk, the Nectarine Blossom scent was the best selling Jo Malone fragrance in the U.S.  So there’s a good chance your mom will love it too.

Cashmere Travel Wrap by White and Warren – $298 at Anthropologie.  Mom a traveler?  There nothing more practical and posh than a cashmere wrap.

The perfect card.  There are so many great ones to choose from at Paper Source!  Prices range from $3.50-$8.

 

xoxo

april bucket list

happiness

I’m a superwoman in need of more happiness!  Because who doesn’t need more happiness?

Last month I attended the Professional Business Women of California Conference (PBWC) where I heard Dr. Jaime Kulaga give a talk titled The SuperWoman’s Guide to Super Fulfillment after her book of the same name.

One of the things Dr. Jaime talked about was proactively adding happiness to your life.  A tool she suggested for adding that happiness is a bucket list.  Not a bucket list with hugely grandiose items for some far off date in the future, but one that lists things that can be done NOW.

With April just kicking off, I decided to make a bucket list for the month and I challenge you to do the same!  Remember, this is not a to-do list of chores or things you’ve been meaning to get done (I had to keep reminding myself that), but a list of fun things that make you happy even just thinking about them.

April’s Bucket List

  1. Get coffee at Java Beach Café and walk along Ocean Beach. I love staring off into the ocean. It’s so relaxing.  I live just a couple miles from the water and yet I rarely go.  Where is a nearby place you love to go but haven’t been in a while?  Make it happen!

  2. See the Oscar de la Renta exhibit at the de Young museum.  If you are a Bank of America cardholder, take advantage of their Museums on Us program. The first weekend of every month you can get free admission by flashing your BofA card.  Find out what exhibits are showing at museums near you and go get some culture!
  3. Open a nice bottle of champagne just because.  I literally just put a bottle of Le Reve in the fridge so it’s at the ready. (“Get a wine fridge” is on my bigger bucket list… those things are expensive!?!)  I’m tired of waiting for a “special occasion” to come along to pop the good bottles.  Cheers to making more occasions special!
  4. Dinner with girlfriends.  Every time I meet up with some girlfriends for brunch, or shopping, or dinner, or just hanging out I feel renewed and happy. Sharing stories and laughs, or even struggles, is simply heart filling.  I can’t wait to research some new restaurants and get something on the calendar!  Make plans with friends to go somewhere new!  Yelp and Goldstar are great for finding new places and nearby things to do.  
  5. Weekend getaway with the hubs.  Road trip!  Or maybe rail trip?!  I love planning trips and traveling far away for weeks at a time, but this year due to time and money constraints it doesn’t look like that’s going to happen… On the way to work this week I heard an ad for Amtrak fares for less than $100 and thought YASSS!!  I’m super excited to start researching budget-friendly weekend trips.  Make plans to take a break and get away!

 

Just making the bucket list has got me all excited for how great April is going to be.  What’s on your bucket list?!

xoxo